Friday, January 2, 2009

Much ado over the dela Paz - Pangandaman match at Valley Golf

I never thought that the dela Paz - Pangandaman match (some say mauling) at Valley Golf and Country Club, Antipolo City would create that much stir among bloggers and the media. I can understand the media people because that is their job to pick up whatever they think of as news-worthy events. Bloggers (like me) would also understand the outpouring of support for the dela Pazes as Bambee dela Paz (sister and daughter of the alleged victims) is a fellow blogger, who first posted the incident in her blog http://vicissitude-decidido.blogspot.com/. It was already detailed enough in that blog so I won't get down to the details of the story/issue anymore. Rather, I shall endeavour to present the middle side of the story even if there are only limited sources from the side of the Pangandamans. One side of the story, even if how detailed, does not guarantee the whole truth.

I have read and re-read the whole story from Bambee dela Paz' own account of the incident in her blog and I was looking for the other side of the story, say from the Pangandamans, but I can only source it out from the media (print and tv). Of course, Sec. Pangandaman insisted that it was not his son-Mayor, much more his bodyguards, who started the fight. I would say it was a fight ( or rumble) and not mauling - these two terms are worlds apart. Even then, Sec. Pangandaman offered his apology to the dela Pazes. From all indications, that was a sign of sobriety and civility on the part of Sec. Pangandaman.
The elder dela Paz (Delfin) admitted having used a closed umbrella "to defend himself". Whether that was the first 'hit' or not, only the caddies on duty who have closely watched that incident could tell. We can, of course, ascertain at this point that there was verbal altercation before somebody started to hit someone.

It can be easily gleaned from the comments of fellow bloggers that they had pre-judged the Pangandamans as the initiator of the fight (or maulers). There is no way to argue against them (or call for sobriety) in the comment section of Bambee's blog or the others who have re-posted the same story in their respective blogs. Doing so would be exposing oneself within the range of fire (or ire) of the bloggers who are 99.9% pro dela Pazes. If you believe all of them, you will be convinced outright that the Pangandamans (or the Mayor - the younger Pangandaman) deserved to be hanged.

However, one blogger's comment got me pondering as it was probably the only source that gives a picture, at least, of who the dela Pazes were/are. I quote a portion of that comment: "Bambee, together with her mother fanning herself like crazy, joined my friend in his putting green, stroking the house balls here and there, oblivious to the presence of my friend. Golf etiquette 101: this is not beig courteous. the same issue they used against the pangandamans. Fortunately my friend is no pangandaman and so the scandal happend days later and not involved my friend. After around 30 minutes of pure arrogance and “I am a champion and who are you” attitude from Bambee, she and her mother left my friend in the practice green with the 12 house balls strewn all around. Etiquette 101 again: this is not being couteous. The ball holders clearly bore the sign “replace after use. Well, the arrogant dela Pazes met their match in the equally arrogant Pangandamans."

I also left a comment that I thought was neutral as I honestly meant it to be that way. But it was rather acknowledged by some bloggers as the "official Pangandaman side of the story.." In a way, the Pangdamans would also, most probably, want it that way. I suggested to leave the matter to the court after hearing a volley of comments/opinions on the issue, only to find out one blogger-host's childish imputations on the suggestion. Does he want to render his own judgment of the case which he has already pre-judged? How differently shallow!

Now I know why some people only appear to be intelligent.

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

How to approach a woman and get her number

By Nick Shane



Last weekend I was in a bar with some of my
friends who LOVE to pick-up girls.

They are pretty ruthless too. They don't care
if they get shot down or rejected...if they do
they will just try again.

Yes they love a couple of beers and drinks
to get their confidence up when going to a bar
or a club.

So we were hanging out next to the dancefloor
and there was this cute blonde who was dancing
with her friends about 5 yards away from us.

In the next 30 minutes, she must hav ebeen hit
on by about 6 guys, including some of my friends.

She got either approached from behind where
guys were trying to dance with her, or their
basic "interview-type" conversation lasted nothing
more than about 2minutes.

You know, stuff like "what's your name", "what
do you do" and "where are you from".

I mean seriously, what chances do all these
guys think they have if they do the exact same
thing like the guy before him?

If you want to succeed with women and dating
you have to use your brain and be smart.

Here, let me illustrate...

There was a young and an older but experienced
bull sitting on a hill looking down on a herd of cows.

The young bull said: "Let's RUN down the hill and
screw a cow what do you say?"

The older and experienced bull just nodded and said
very calmly...

"Tell ya what. Let's WALK down the hill and screw 'em all".

...and that pretty much summed up my night last weekend in
that bar with all my friends and I don't know how many other
dudes.

There was this blonde everybody HIT on with the same lines,
techniques and lame-ass attempts.

So I just finished my drink, chilled with my buddies
and when things calmed down...I walked passed her,
*waved*, smiled ... went over there and said "Hi, what's up?".

And guess what. I use this approach-technique almost
every time when I am in a bar or in a club and it works.

You shall NEVER *hit* on women... you have to be smooth.
And SMOOTH I was.

I don't need to drink my confidence up, I don't need to
tap somebody on the shoulder to get their attention and I
don't need to use cheap pickup lines to get a conversation
going.

I just walked past her, I waved, she waved back ...BAM!

The door was open!

If you can be smooth, then my friend you can pretty much
get whoever you want. Remember, you are different and NON-
THREATENING.

Then I just talked to her for 5minutes, made her laugh,
accused her of chatting up cute lil' boys like me...and then
I cut the conversation short.

"Hey listen, I gotta go back to my friends, but we should
continue this conversation over a cup of coffee. Here, why
don't you give me your number and we work something out."

She was hooked.

If you want to approach a woman and get her number, be
smooth and don't HIT on her. After 5 minutes of slight
cheekyness from your side and accusing her of ... I dunno...
staring at your ass (lol) you can cut it short and get her
number as well.

It's really simple, trust me.

Now go try it!